We are all children of someone, all born to a mother who carried us. Our time in her womb will have given us our first experiences, ones which we will have been unable to label, understand or defend ourselves from at the time.
These experiences will have shaped us, just as much as the ones we had in our formative years. Without a shadow of a doubt, the populist opinion from the experts in this field is that by the time we reach the age of seven, we have been well and truly programmed.
As this programming has been largely unconscious, our sponge-like being and openness to everything in our environment has taken advantage of our capacity to take in a multitude of stimuli, with energy, emotions and beliefs of all descriptions being absorbed by osmosis in every waking – and in some cases sleeping – moment.
Legacy Parenting Coaching™ is a programme for existing and future parents, which is designed to educate and train in how to bring up children in non-toxic ways, and how to ensure that any ‘damage that may have already been done’ is reversed without fuss and without the child(ren) needing to be involved.
Regardless of the age of your child(ren), if you want the best for them and to understand what they really need – beyond their basic physical needs – this programme will help you create a parenting legacy to be proud of.
Whilst much of what might be referred to as ‘questionable parenting and care-giving’ can justifiably be explained by ignorance or being under-resourced, such reasons are unable to make up for the potential long-term and in many cases lifetime of damage they can cause.
Parents and care-givers have a huge responsibility, far greater than is at first realised in many cases.
Virtually all of the challenges we as adults have today- in my experience around ninety-eight percent – whether that be with our careers, intimate relationships, finances, mental and physical health, self-esteem, self-confidence or self-image, have their seeds planted in our own early years. And when we ourselves graduate into parenthood, our children show up with a covert agenda to help us work on our unresolved stuff by presenting it through their very being.
The great news is that, despite whatever may have been planted and whatever may be ‘blooming’ or ‘yielding fruit’ today, the legacy of those early years can be re-written in the present. There’s no need to go back to childhood, no need to communicate with your parents, no need to join a specific support group, and no need to have a re-birthing experience. And whilst it is not possible to change history, it is possible to change the impact history may be having today.
I use the term ‘toxic parenting’ to refer to the unwitting and unconscious negative impact parental behaviour can too easily have. I also understand that whilst we as children and adults are capable of working on what we have inherited, we can also as parents make sure we give our children the absolute best opportunity to enjoy a life untainted by the ignorance and limitations we ourselves may have picked up or been exposed to along the way.
If you’d like to embark upon a programme of Legacy Parenting Coaching™, drop me an email to richard@richardmoat.com, or call +64 (0)9 889 0642, and we can explore exactly how it can help you.
If personal coaching in this area doesn’t suit you for any reason, you might like to consider availing yourself of my guided visualization audio programme, specifically formulated to help you ‘move on’ from any toxic parenting of your own – click here to find out all about the programme.